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Handling Your Negative Inner Voice with Positivity
“You are strong when you know your weaknesses. You are beautiful when you appreciate your flaws. You are wise when you learn from your mistakes.” – Unknown
The most annoying thing for me is to hear someone tell me, “Just stop it!” whenever I am frustrated or discouraged and looking for answers and solutions.
When you’re anxious, and someone tells you, “Stop worrying, it will all be fine…” these words only add fuel to the fire and often make you angry. At least this is true for me.
It reminds me of a funny video I watched about a “unique” therapeutic approach, when a therapist just tells a patient, after listening to their problems with deep emotional issues, “STOP IT!”
“But I can’t just stop it,” the patient responds. “This issue has been within me since childhood, and my mom used to do the same.”
But the therapist just calmly responds, “We don’t go there. Just stop it.”
If only it were that easy to stop it: the limiting beliefs, the destructive behavior, the unwanted outcomes, the toxic relationships, etc. All people would be skinny, rich, and happy, and we’d live in the ideal word, but unfortunately, that’s not the case.
You can’t just stop a feeling, especially one that tells you “you are not good enough.”
No matter how hard I work on my personal growth and myself, the feelings of inadequacy and comparisons to others creep in occasionally, especially when things don’t go according to my plans. It is so easy for me to blame myself when I’m feeling frustrated.
No matter how hard I try to push away the feeling that I’m not good enough, it doesn’t go away. In fact, it just strengthens. The more I resist that feelings, the more it persists.
The ironic part is that my intellectual mind knows it’s not true that I’m not good enough. On a good day, I feel powerful and anchored, and I know my value. But on a bad day—when I fail at something or take things personally—I can’t seem to stop the wave of negative emotions that take me over.
I’ve learned that I can’t just snap out of a negative feeling. I can’t just stop it. And I can’t bottle it.
So what can you do when your inner voice tells you “you are not good enough”?
Well, first of all, you need to acknowledge what you’re feeling. When you accept your feelings instead of trying to change them, they have less power over you, and can even serve you by encouraging your growth.
For example, I recently attended a local speaking club where a French lady presented a speech. She spoke in English, but, as I speak French, I wanted to complement her speech in the French language.
To my big annoyance, my mind just went blank after “Excellent travail!” (Great job!) I couldn’t think of another word. I quickly switched to English, but I felt like a failure.
My logical mind was saying, “It’s okay, you don’t use French often, that’s why you forgot,” but my emotional mind woke up all my gremlins, who were screaming at me “You are not good enough!”
I felt really frustrated, but that incident encouraged me to go back to my French books to refresh my memory. I enjoyed rereading Le Petit Prince, and in the end, I felt good about myself.
It might be a simple example, but that’s how our psychology works.
When you look your insecurity in the eyes, it often reveals an opportunity for fulfillment or improvement. Don’t deny it; listen to it. Don’t engage in the emotions it produces—the feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, and shame; just listen to what it has to say.
It doesn’t matter how many times I tell you, “You are beautiful and amazing just the way you are” (and by the way, this is absolutely true); when you look at yourself in the mirror and you don’t like what you see, you will find it hard to believe this. You inner voice might tell you, “You are not good enough as you are right now.”
Acknowledge that voice and consider that maybe your insecurity has some constructive value; for example, maybe your inner voice is trying to encourage you to start eating healthier or working out.
You also need to accept the fear that you’re not good enough as part of yourself. I don’t care where you are in life—how successful, loved, and fulfilled you might feel—we all focus on our flaws and imperfections from time to time. It’s called being human. We can’t always be at our best and most confident. And this is okay.
It’s okay to occasionally feel like you are not good enough, as long as you recognize that thoughts and feelings aren’t facts and don’t dwell in that state.
These wobbly moments are unpleasant but inevitable; you can’t avoid them.
Give yourself a permission to be imperfect, to question and doubt yourself occasionally. Without questions and doubts we wouldn’t be able to grow and develop.
I believe through wrestling with our weaknesses we are able to get to the other side of our strengths. But we can’t just ignore our shortcomings. They’re an undeniable part of us. We have to be aware and own the good, the bad, and the ugly within us, so we are better equipped to deal with our limitations.
So, the question is not how to eliminate the negative voice, but how to learn to deal with it in an intelligent, mature, and conscious way. Listen to it, learn from it, but don’t let it define who you are, don’t let it write your story.
Don’t be afraid of it and don’t try to stop it; allow it to help you learn more about who you are and who you can be.
This post courtesy of Tiny Buddha.
Psychology Around the Net: October 5, 2019
This week’s Psychology Around the Net looks at new research involving music and personality traits, learning how to talk to yourself with self-compassion, the possible link between air pollution and violence, and more.
New Psychology Research Links Conservative Music, But Not Rebellious Music, to Maladaptive Personality Traits: According to new research published in Psychology of Music, intense and rebellious music genres — like heavy metal and rap — doesn’t seem to be linked to maladaptive personality traits; however, the research did show some “modest links” between certain other kinds of entertainment media preferences and neurotic, hostile, and eccentric tendencies. Says Pavel S. Blagov, an associate professor of psychology and study author: “In general, some maladaptive traits appear to be linked to the kinds of music and movies people enjoy, but it is important to remember that the links are relatively weak. For example, people who tend to be unusually introverted or withdrawn do not seem to enjoy the kinds of stimulating, upbeat music played at social gatherings or the intense movies from the horror and thriller genres.”
How to Talk to Yourself With Self-Compassion: When you don’t like what others are saying, you can leave. Turn off the TV or radio. Skip the podcast. Hang up the phone. Block the texts. When others are saying things that hurt you, or that you don’t agree with, or that skew your perception, you can stop listening — unless the person saying those things is you. Your inner dialogue is with you always, after all. You can’t escape it, but you can change it. It’s time to check in with your inner dialogue, how it’s making you feel, and alternative, kinder ways to talk to yourself.
Apparently the Secret Depends On How Much Water You Drink: A recent OnePoll study surveyed 2,000 Americans on their water intake and happiness levels: 67% of participants who responded they drink “more than enough” water described themselves as “very happy”; as the amount of water decreased, so did the percentage of happy respondents.
Exposure to Air Pollution Increases Violent Crime Rates: According to new research from Colorado State University, breathing dirty air can make you more aggressive. A team of researchers found links between short-term air pollution exposure and aggressive behavior in the form of assault and other violent crimes after cross-analyzing daily criminal activity (from the Federal Bureau of Investigations), daily county-level air pollution (from the Environmental Protection Agency), and daily wildfire smoke plumes (from the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration’s Hazard Mapping System). Says the study’s co-author Jude Bayham: “The story is, when you’re exposed to more pollution, you become marginally more aggressive, so those altercations — some things that may not have escalated — do escalate.”
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Care For My Partner With PTSD? In this week’s Dr. NerdLove column, dating coach Harris O’Malley helps “Not Just a Caretaker” with some ideas on navigating a relationship with someone who suffers from PTSD as well as points out the importance of the non-PTSD partner having a support network outside of the relationship.
How to Care for Yourself When Dealing With Difficult People: Family members, friends, romantic partners, coworkers — having any kind of relationship with people who are emotionally unwell can be challenging. It’s important to learn that their behaviors aren’t your fault, set boundaries and stick to them, and be confident and consistent in asserting yourself.
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